Here is a story that helps to demonstrate the concept of Emotional Intelligence:
There was once a dog that unknowingly entered into a room full of mirrors. Since it did not know that it was looking at its own reflection, it started to bark loudly, running from one mirror to another. It was really angry because it thought that there were other dogs challenging him into a fight. The dog relentlessly kept barking. Eventually it died of exhaustion, trying to fight its mirrored ‘enemies’.
What is the learning point in this story?
What could the dog have done to gain from the situation that he was faced with?
If only the dog had wagged his tail once, he would have had all of ‘the others’ wagging their tails in friendship. This sums up emotional intelligence skills in many ways.
If the dog had practiced self regulation – self restraint and self control – it would have been able to think about its situation and acted appropriately.
If the dog was more self-aware, it would have understood that it can make friends with ‘the other dogs’, rather than get aggressive and make foes.
If the dog was positively motivated, it would have been optimistic about its challenge – i.e., ‘the other dogs’ – and hence be driven to make friends by choosing the right goal.
If the dog was empathetic, it would have been able to see ‘the other dogs’ point of view: that the ‘other dogs’ might have been interested in making friends with it.
In many ways, life is like an echo – we get back whatever we put out. So let us make it a point to improve our emotional intelligence skills, so that we can put out optimism and get back the same multifold. In this way, we can get the most out of life and happiness increases, thereby improving quality of life.